Growing My Family Blog - You're Not Alone

The phone rings. Your heart leaps into your throat, your body automatically bracing for impact. You’ve trained yourself to prepare for the worst, to soften the blow of potential disappointment. But then, the words are different this time. "The news is good." Your beta is rising beautifully. The ultrasound showed exactly what it needed to show. The follicle is ready. The results are positive. And in that moment, a wave of relief washes over you. But right behind it, instead of pure, unadulterated joy, you might feel… something else. A strange quiet. A cautious exhale. A hope so fragile you’re afraid to even touch it, let alone celebrate it. You might find yourself thinking, “Is this real? What if it doesn’t last? I don’t want to get my hopes up.” If good news feels more terrifying than joyful, please know this: you are not being ungrateful. You are not being pessimistic. You are being a person who has been through the fire of infertility. Why Good News Feels So Complicated The...

Take a moment, perhaps together if you're on this journey as a couple, and just breathe. Breathe deeply, right into your heart. You have navigated what was likely an intricate, emotionally demanding, and deeply personal period of contemplation. And you’ve arrived here, at this significant juncture, with a profound, multi-layered decision: you're choosing to build your family using both Donor Conception (whether that's donor eggs, sperm, or embryos) AND a Gestational Surrogate. That feeling, that thought, "Okay, this is it. This is our unique path, the specific, chosen way we will bring our longed-for child into the world," is absolutely monumental. Before we go any further, let’s just pause and truly, deeply acknowledge the immense courage, the unwavering resilience, the countless hours of research, and the profound, boundless love that has brought you to this very point. This wasn't a simple choice, not by a long shot. It’s a path that requires incredible str...