Managing Social Media: Curating a Kinder Feed

Hey there, Friend.

Let’s talk about the holiday party that happens right in the palm of your hand: social media. During this season, our feeds can transform into a non-stop highlight reel of perfect family photos, adorable children in matching pajamas, and, of course, festive pregnancy announcements. It can feel like an emotional minefield, and a single scroll can send you into a spiral of comparison and grief.

Protecting your peace doesn't just apply to in-person events; it is absolutely crucial for your digital life as well. You have the power to curate a social media experience that feels more like a warm hug and less like a gut punch.

The Gentle Mute Button: The mute button is your best friend. It allows you to temporarily stop seeing someone's posts without the drama of unfriending them. They will never know, and you can always unmute them later when you feel more resilient. Mute friends who are currently pregnant, friends with newborns, or anyone whose posts feel particularly triggering right now.
Curate with Intention: Actively seek out and follow accounts that make you feel good. This could be accounts focused on travel, books, art, nature, humor, or even other infertility warriors who make you feel seen. Flooding your feed with content that inspires and uplifts you can change your entire experience.
Set Time Boundaries: Try setting gentle limits for yourself. Maybe you decide to only check social media for 15 minutes in the morning and 15 minutes in the evening.

Taking control of your feed is not an act of censorship; it is a radical and necessary act of self-care.

Your Gentle Reminder: Your mental health is more important than keeping up with your social media feed. The mute button is a tool of peace, not a tool of unkindness.

Friend, please don't feel guilty for protecting yourself. You would not willingly walk into a party that you knew would be full of triggers, and the same principle applies to your phone. You are in a season of life that requires you to be a fierce guardian of your own heart, both online and off.

This holiday, we encourage you to do a gentle audit of your feed. Mute with love, follow with intention, and scroll with awareness. You are creating a digital sanctuary, a place where your heart can rest. That is a beautiful and empowering choice that we celebrate in our community.

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